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PerformHappy with Rebecca Smith


Jul 29, 2023

As parents, we all want the best for our young athletes, especially when they're going through tough times. But what should you do if your child resists the help and guidance we offer? In this episode, Coach Rebecca addresses this common concern and provides valuable insights for parents seeking ways to understand and support their athletes effectively. 

During their pre-teen and teenage years, it’s entirely normal for children to seek some distance from their parents. This developmental phase is marked by their quest for independence and the shaping of their identities. It's essential to recognize that their resistance might have a biological basis as their brains undergo significant changes during this period. 

In some cases, kids may not even realize they need help. We need to allow them space to recognize when they can improve and understand when to ask for help. Instead of arguing with them when they insist everything’s fine, try to agree with them while gently encouraging deeper reflection on their situation. Give them the freedom to figure things out and learn from their experiences. 

“Effort pointed in the wrong direction will actually decrease confidence.” -Rebecca Smith 

Embarrassment can also be a reason why young athletes avoid seeking help. They might fear standing out or being seen as different from their peers, especially if they require additional training or support. As parents, it's essential to create an environment where they feel safe to open up and share their challenges without judgment. 

The key lies in building a strong and trusting relationship with your child based on hope and trust. Coach Rebecca emphasizes the importance of teaching parents how to foster hope and trust with their kids. By creating a safe space where young athletes feel understood, supported, and free to share their experiences, parents can lay the foundation for open communication and the willingness to seek help when needed. 

“When you stop trying to solve the problem and instead start to build the relationship, that readiness for change is going to move and the hope they have in themselves is going to increase.” -Rebecca Smith 

Join Coach Rebecca in this episode as she shares essential strategies for building a supportive and trusting relationship with your athlete, empowering them to embrace growth and seek help when facing challenges. Remember, creating a nurturing and understanding environment can be the catalyst for your child's continued growth and success in their sports journey. 

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